Focus On The Positive

My husband, Joe, has always been my best friend.  But over the past few years, as I found myself entangled in a very messy and painful ordeal, his allegiance, dependability, and compassion soared to levels that surprised even me.

So many times over the past 24 months when I was falling apart inside, completely overwhelmed by a myriad of emotions instantaneously – Joe was there.   He was always so ready and forever willing to listen when I needed to vent.  He gave me the freedom to unleash and unload when I needed to vomit my raw emotions and endured it patiently without judgment but with compassion and empathy instead.  It did not matter how many times Joe heard me express the same things over and over again or describe the gut-wrenching pain I was in.  He intently listened as if it were the first time he had ever heard it.  And when I was done, he repeatedly comforted my grieving heart.

It is so easy to complain about our spouse’s negatives rather than focus on their many positives.  I have been guilty of doing that myself at times.  But when life throws us curveballs that rock us to our core, it is amazing how insignificant those nitpicky negatives become and how much we appreciate the godly qualities they carry at all times.

If you are stuck in a rut of focusing on your spouse’s negatives, I encourage you to identify and appreciate the amazing qualities they possess.  Tell them today how much you value those aspects of who they are.  Learn to be grateful for the positives more than you tolerate the negatives.

What amazing qualities does your spouse possess that you are grateful for today?  Comment below.