Causing Mistrust

During the early years of my marriage, I repeated behaviors from my previous relationships that caused my husband to distrust me.  What I was doing did not seem like a big deal to me at the time.  But looking back, it was not healthy for us or our marriage goals.

We did not recover from our predicament overnight, and it took me a while to rebuild my husband’s trust.  But we were determined not to let it keep us from building a healthy marriage moving forward.

Here are a few important things I learned from that difficult experience: 

• Healthy marriages are built on mutual trust.

• Transparency and openness facilitate trust.

• Personal integrity is non-negotiable.

I know it is challenging to stop repeating mistakes from our past.  I also know marriages have difficulty recovering from some failures, especially when trust is violated.  But Jesus can take any situation and use it powerfully to facilitate oneness and build healthy marriages if both spouses allow Him.

Are your past failures interfering with building a healthy marriage?  What is Jesus leading you to do to change that reality?  Do you need prayer?  Let me know in the comments.