Prioritizing Our Husband's Needs

Are you afraid if you focus on your husband’s needs, your own will be neglected?

Our natural tendency in relationships is to always look out for #1 – us!  But that runs contrary to God’s Word, especially in marriage. 

Jesus was the ultimate example of sacrificing Himself for the needs of others.  He gave of Himself always without hesitation.  He was not worried about His human needs but, instead, trusted His Father to meet those while He focused on meeting others’ needs.

Likewise, God calls us to put our husband’s needs first (Phil 2:3-4) while trusting Jesus to take care of our needs (Matt 6:33).  That does not mean we must disregard our needs or consider them irrelevant (Phil 2:4a).  It just means we place ours lower than our husband’s on the priority scale.   When we do this willingly and faithfully, Jesus promises to meet our needs.  But that requires trust – trust in Jesus and His Word.

God never promised us marriage would be easy.  Building intimacy, unity, and oneness take effort – a lot of it!  It also takes humility, sacrifice, and love showing itself through consistent actions.  But in the end, the reward far outweighs any cost.

So, what is keeping you from putting your husband first? What are you afraid of if you did?