What "Not To Do" During Conflicts
Our marriages inevitably hit those bumps in the road, which causes conflict between our spouse and us. When this happens, there are a few things we should never do because they only breed further division instead of leading us toward reconciliation.
Don’t Unleash Anger.
We should never permit ourselves to verbally attack our spouses just because we are hurt or angry with them. This ungodly behavior adds to our already-existing issues, making our division greater and reconciliation more challenging.
Don’t Back-Bite.
We should never complain about or talk negatively behind our spouse’s back to others, including family members. This activity disrespects our spouse, undermines their trust in us, and unfairly turns others against them – making us “the hero” and them “the zero.”
Don’t Defend Sin.
We should never justify or defend our sinful actions against our spouse – ever. Deflecting responsibility for things we do that contribute to our marital discord is ungodly and immature.
Don’t Ignore Feelings.
We should never pretend we are fine when we are offended, hurt, disrespected, or angered by something our spouse did or said. Disregarding our feelings or refusing to address them appropriately causes resentment and animosity to build against our spouse.
Don’t Leave Issues Unresolved.
We should never allow our marital conflicts to go unresolved. Somehow, someway, we must find a way to settle the issue or problem, so it does not continue manifesting in the future.
Applying these principles during marital conflicts greatly reduces the chances of discord escalating and increases our ability to find a faster resolution.
Which of these principles are you best and worst at during marital disputes?