The Blame Game

An argument broke out when John and Alison were sitting at dinner discussing their rocky relationship, trying to get things back on track.

John said, “Honestly? I don’t get what’s wrong with you or why you’re so cranky and distant all the time!”

Alison retorted, “Well, if you weren’t so condescending and disrespectful in the way you talked to me throughout the day, maybe you’d get a different reaction!”

John and Alison argued back and forth for the next 45 minutes vehemently. Each one blamed the other for their bad behavior, both refused to take responsibility for their hurtful actions, and neither worked to resolve the issues bringing division between them. The result was zero peace, zero progress, and zero resolution.

In marriage, blaming each other for our ungodly actions, attitude, or treatment never brings resolution. It only perpetuates a continual cycle of deflection and increases the level of division between us, never solving anything.

Do you and your spouse address marriage problems by blaming each other rather than taking responsibility for your actions that contribute to your division?  If so, I would love to pray for you both. Comment below.