I Fell Into A Black Hole

Two days after my wedding, I felt like I had fallen into a black hole.  It was scary.  I actually wondered if I had just made the biggest mistake of my life.

What was supposed to be a time of “honeymoon bliss” turned into a nightmare as we argued not even 48 hours into our marriage.  I did not know it then, but that fight would mark the beginning of what would be a very rough first year of marriage.

It has been over 32 years since our wedding day.  Given how we first started out, I am continually amazed at the incredibly close and intensely loving relationship my husband and I share.  When I look back on those earlier days, I understand why Jesus sent us to minister in Hong Kong for the first five months of our marriage.  He knew we needed to be halfway around the world without any opportunity to “run home to mom,” so we were forced to work things out together – with His help.  And He was right! 

I am so glad I did not give up on my marriage.  I know if I had bailed-out early on, I would have missed out on the deep and powerful connection Jesus had in store for me.  It did not come easy or overnight.  It required a lot of hard work, commitment, communication, patience, and a whole lot of us both telling ourselves, “Don’t panic!  You’ll get through this!”  But our investment paid off in ways neither of us could have imagined.

If your marriage is experiencing difficulties, you are not alone.  We have all been there because whenever two imperfect people are involved in anything, there are always challenges.  No matter what you are facing, I encourage you to stay the course and let Jesus lead you through it.  Lean on Him, pray for strength to be the wife He has called you to be, and then do what He says.