Busy Lives = Marital Funk

In our 32 years of marriage, life has been hectic.  We have raised two children, built a 27,000 square foot ministry center, started an outreach ministry, pioneered a Christian school, and currently run two ministries to the poor in cities 100+ miles away from each other.

Despite never spending a night apart, there were seasons when we did not see each other very often, and it created distance or a disconnect in our relationship.  At first, we did not notice the divide.  But, over time, the symptoms of it began to show in not-so-pleasant ways.  We would bicker at the smallest things.  We would be short with each other or snappy and unkind.  The affection and playfulness that typically characterized our relationship became either non-existent or felt forced.

None of these things were good signs!

At some point into each “funk,” one of us would speak up after having enough.  Sometimes, it was my husband.  Other times, it was me.  That conversation usually began by pointing out the negative elements occurring and expressing our unhappiness about it.  At times, it took work to “prove” our case to each other.  But, in the end, we both agreed that an unraveling had occurred, and adjustments were needed.  Then we implemented those agreed-upon changes.

What about you and your marriage? Are you in a “funky” season and feeling the effects of it in your relationship? If so, I encourage you to have an honest conversation about it with your spouse so you both can work toward reconnecting. If you need prayer, comment below. I would be honored to pray for you.