Changes Are Inevitable

I have changed a lot over the years, but the one element that impacted my marriage the most was allowing myself to be “fully me.”

Growing up as a people-pleaser, I always tried to make everyone happy. I even bent myself around other people’s expectations to fit into the mold they desired for me.

That behavior did not change when I married but only intensified because I was a new Christian who wanted to please my husband and Jesus!

It took me a few decades of growing up emotionally and spiritually to realize I mattered. I also recognized that I did not need to suppress who I was for others to like or love me.

When I began permitting myself to be “fully me,” my husband was thrown off-balance. He was not used to me asserting myself or my needs, so it took us a while to work through and adjust to the change. But ultimately, it was the greatest blessing for our relationship once we both embraced and encouraged it.

What about you? What changes have you undergone, and how did they affect your marriage? Let me know in the comments.